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In 1999-2000 I took two relationships counseling courses in a graduate school psychology program. I was surprised that neither course had a textbook. The professors said that there are no relationships textbooks, because few psychology programs offer classes in relationships counseling. (Yes, that's a secret your marriage counselor probably didn't tell you—he or she likely has never taken a class in relationships counseling.)

One course had an excellent reading list. Using these sources I put together a relationships counseling textbook. The result is the first two sections of the book: The Science of Relationships, and Life Stages.

I then added the third section, Practical Advice. This is based on scientific research as much as possible, then on respected works of literature, and lastly on my personal opinions.

The fourth section is about personality types.

In 2003 I published Hearts and Minds: How Our Brains Are Hardwired for Relationships. Everyone who read the book—both of them—loved it. Many people were extremely offended by the book. None of those people read it. Then there were some strange reviews on Amazon: five stars, but they seemed to have read some other book. Perhaps I've taken too many psychology classes, but it seems that people project their ideas about relationships onto relationship books, rather than reading the books.

In any case, not many people bought Hearts and Minds. So I'll make the book available free as a Wikibook.

--Thomas David Kehoe 22:43, 28 June 2006 (UTC)

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About This Book · Q&A (Ask a question!) · Recommended Books
The Science of Relationships :	The Evolution of the Human Brain · How Women Select Men · How Men Select Women · How Our Ancestors Lived · Monogamy and Polygamy · Hormones · Communication Styles
Life Stages :	Childhood—Seeking Unconditional Love · Adolescence—Seeking Romantic Love · Adulthood—Families And Forgiveness · Agape—Altruistic Love
Practical Advice :	Where Couples Met · Flirting · How to Write a Personal Ad · Dating · Sex (and Why to Avoid It) · Becoming a Couple · Conflict In Relationships
Personality Types :	Emotional Control Systems · Zeus-Hera · Poseidon-Athena · Apollo-Artemis · Hermes-Hestia · Ares-Hephaestus-Aphrodite · Dionysus-Demeter · Hades-Persephone