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The Science of Relationships :	The Evolution of the Human Brain · How Women Select Men · How Men Select Women · How Our Ancestors Lived · Monogamy and Polygamy · Hormones · Communication Styles
Life Stages :	Childhood—Seeking Unconditional Love · Adolescence—Seeking Romantic Love · Adulthood—Families And Forgiveness · Agape—Altruistic Love
Practical Advice :	Where Couples Met · Flirting · How to Write a Personal Ad · Dating · Sex (and Why to Avoid It) · Becoming a Couple · Conflict In Relationships
Personality Types :	Emotional Control Systems · Zeus-Hera · Poseidon-Athena · Apollo-Artemis · Hermes-Hestia · Ares-Hephaestus-Aphrodite · Dionysus-Demeter · Hades-Persephone

[edit] Confused & Upset

I started dating this woman five weeks ago. We got into it pretty heavy. We spent alot of time together. I began staying at her house every night, aside from maybe 2 or 3 nights. A week ago things started getting a little rough. We got into a little spat for the first time. Since then, things just seemed to go a little downhill. A few days later we got into another disagreement, and soon after that she told me that we needed some time apart. I can understand the time apart thing, to some degree. But I'm really into this person and am scared about losing her. I stayed at home last night for the first time in roughly three weeks. I miss her alot already. What I want to know I guess, what do I do to keep in contact with her? How do I go abouts keeping contact? How often? My initial reaction is to pour myself out into a note or email and give it to her,yet, I dont want to push her any more.

I presume the two of you are in your twenties. The chapter Adolescence—Seeking Romantic Love shows how young people fall in love, by projecting idealizations onto a partner rather than by seeing who the partner really is. When even a tiny bit of reality cracks that idealization, the fantasy falls apart in a hurry. Young people then go from madly in love to hating each other. Contrast this to Adulthood—Families And Forgiveness. Help her to move from adolescent love to mature love.--Thomas David Kehoe 21:39, 16 October 2006 (UTC)

[edit] Conflict

I got out with a girl, we work in the same place. Before this, I was in love with another girl, but she did not felt the same for me. Then I decided to take a chance with the girl who worked with me. I found out that she liked me and I didn't know that. The problem is that she wants a serious relationship, but I don't think I'm ready for it, I feel quite unconfortable, but now I think there's no return. I was forced to ask her father to date her, but I don't want to (altough he refused). Anyway, she has deeper feeling for me than mine for her. I fear hurting her and I'm ashamed because of it.

[edit] forgiving

i had an almost fatal accident years ago. i was left on the floor to die by my wife. luckly my children found me. how do i forgive her for this if she has not asked me to.

Being left to die is her way of telling you that it's over and she never wants to see or hear from you again. This felonious assualting woman or "felon" may be well on her way to being one of the infamous Black Widows.

Where is the non-straight content here? Gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people have relationships too, strangely enough.