Aspies Book/Chatting online - possible disturbances
- 1 Introduction
- 2 Problems and solutions
- 3 Guidelines
Chatting is communicating with other people by sending them text messages. This chapter presents various methods and strategies for avoiding negative thoughts in a chatroom, when encountering hurtful conversations. Below will be analyzed in detail problems that may occur, and the many methods of their solution.
Problems and solutions
This section is general information on what to do in various situations.
This happens when a person sends you an abusive message in the chatroom.
- Abuse them too
- Reply in the chatroom by sending them an insulting message back.
- Good consequences of this action
- You might feel better by insulting the other person in return.
- The public may realize you didn't like the insulting message.
- Bad consequences of this action
- You are wasting time on chatting with a person that insulted you.
- Good consequences of this action
- Tell them once
- Reply them with a private message: "I'm sorry, I can't concentrate on what you say today. I will filter your messages for the good of both of us to prevent misunderstanding, and I'm looking forward to talk to you another day"
sidenote: Good and Bad sections not analyzed yet
- Send a private message
Send them a private message "I found your message abusive their_nickname_here. Was your intention to type an abusive message?"
- Possible responses
- Then don't send them a message again, regardless of what they do, and you should technically ignore them.
- You can send them back "ok".
- If you come to this section a second time where they have said "no"
- Send to this person in a private message: "I'm sorry. I think we are misinterpreting each other today. I can't concentrate on what you say to me, so I will filter out your messages for the good of both of us"
- They don't send you a "yes" or "no" message
- Then send them a private message: "I'm sorry. I think we are misinterpreting each other today. I can't concentrate on what you say to me, so I will filter out your messages for the good of both of us"
sidenote: You may not actually intend this, but it will help up to a degree.
note: Whether these responses are sent in the chatroom or privately is not covered in this section, but only responses are covered.
The purpose of this section is to define what to reply for various occasions that might happen. For example, each time you feel abused by a message you might type something standard like "I have not abused you, and even you by trying to abuse me, I will not fall for your wish to reply back and start a flame war. I can keep my self control instead of wasting time by doing such a thing".
Short disturbed response
I'm sorry I can't reply any more to your messages.
This section was originally made in the case that you were having a bad mood in the chatroom. Further on this section was made as an idea of showing a certain set of rules to a person. Asking if a certain person agrees to them and if not certain actions might be taken by you. note: this is not just for others. You might also state publicly that you follow a certain guideline, because of your current mood. This can help others understand how you feel, or close to how you feel...and knowing that you tell about it publicly might make you feel more calm.
An example: This might confuse, but you might state for example just when you enter the chatroom that you are not in great mood, and you would like to chat calmly, or only through private chat messages.
Guidelines for personal use
These are guidelines that people might not need to view, and might just be aware of that you follow certain guidelines that regulate your behaviour. (yes, you can regulate yourself by these)
guideline1 communicating in private with friends
The following described under "content:..." is information about this specific guideline
content: I'm in no good mood, and I will not take part in the discussion in the chatroom, but only send messages to people I already know, and if I find none, then as of this rule I will still not type any message in the chatroom.
Guidelines for public use
I will also use a new term called "ruleset", although I can't describe it yet since my thoughts are very abstract. The purpose of the section is to type about guidelines that other people will view including you.
ruleset1 confusion prevention (complex)
First the reason for this ruleset, is that it's expected you are confused while at the chatroom. Since you are confused, you might wish to avoid messages that confuse you, and you might want a balance where all messages that confuse you are filtered out. That's what this ruleset is about.
- Will not reply to things that confuse you
- Example: Someone says "oh yeah" and you can not or do not wish to get involved in the discussion that gave this response from a certain person. So you will ignore that message.
- If opinions confuse you, or make you ponder which you don't want to do according to this ruleset, you might filter it out, but only after you've noted 3 confusing things from a certain person.
- example: person A says at 3 different times "lalala hoho" and "they should not be allowed to do that" and "yehhh, oops", and let's say that these 3 message confused you , then you filter the nickname out.